First Wives
vs. Second Wives
"Remember, the first wife is normally the
one that lives over the store, who puts hubby through school,
who works and raises the kids," says divorce lawyer
Lynne Gold-Bikin, former chair of the American Bar Association's
Family Law Section. "The second wife gets not only the
fruits of his career building but also the benefits of his midlife
interest in family. Now, when she has the baby, he's in
the delivery room--he wasn't there the first time. And she gets
the fur coat."
Gold-Bikin believes that First
Wives get the shaft. Shared Parenting advocate Rachel Forrest
of Fathers and Families
of Massachusetts believes that the family law system has
become so stacked against fathers that it is Second Wives who
often are getting the raw deal.
First Wives squared off
against Second Wives on His Side with Glenn Sacks on
November 21.
To learn more First Wives and
Second Wives, see:
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Hell Hath no Fury--The First Wives Club Packs Multiplexes
with Women Who Recognize the Plot and Welcome the Message:
Get Even, then Get Over It (Time Magazine, 11/7/96)
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A Second Wife Speaks Out,
by Margaret S., a His Side
listener
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Glenn's co-authored column
Why
Are There so Many Women in the Fathers' Movement? (Minneapolis
Star-Tribune, 6/21/02)
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Phyllis Chesler's "Is
Every Woman One Divorce Away From Financial Disaster? A
true story from the "ex" files (On The Issues,
Winter, 1996)
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Glenn's co-authored column
Tennessee Appellate Court Sends Message: Second Families
Count (Memphis Commercial Appeal, 8/23/02).
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His Side:
The Second
Wives Movement (12/14/03)
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Second
Wives Fight For First Place In Their Marriages (CNN,
2/3/96)
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Glenn's column
American Fathers Get a Bad Rap (Cybercast News Service,
6/17/02)
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His Side with Glenn
Sacks:
A Mother's Day Tribute
to Mothers Who Co-Parent (5/9/04)
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Glenn's column
Many Divorced Dads Struggle to Remain in Their Children's
Lives (Long Beach Times, 6/5/03)
