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The
activist host of the weekly talk show "His Side"
launched a protest against male bashing, garnering
worldwide press coverage and, among 3,500 retailers,
prompting 95% of them to desert the item.
That is just
the beginning of Sacks' mission to level the
battlefield between the sexes. Among the barrage of
politically motivated talkers on the airwaves today,
this former high-school teacher instead aims to
speak up for "gender and family issues from a
perspective unapologetically sympathetic to men and
fathers," he says.
Sacks
refers to himself as the "defender of the much
maligned American male against the unfair attacks
and insulting stereotypes that we constantly endure"
and the "modern cultural norm of woman is good, man
is bad; woman is right, man is wrong."
Sacks
appears in three top 10 markets--WSNR-AM New York,
KTIE-AM Los Angeles and WWZN-AM Boston--every Sunday
evening. His program is also streamed on the
Internet at hisside.com. The live, interactive show
is self-syndicated.
While he
might sound like a hot-headed extremist, Sacks' show
is devoid of histrionics. It offers a counterpoint
to what he considers the portrayal of fathers on TV
sitcoms or Lifetime movies, where men are often
portrayed as dopey weaklings or predators.
Sacks'
pointed opinions about society's off-kilter
references to men is rooted in his belief that
following the feminist movement of the 1970s, it
became acceptable to blame guys for much of the
world's foibles.
"The
feminist movement was good for the first 15 years,
from 1970," Sacks carefully explains. "But sometime
in the mid-'80s, society really jumped the rails,
and it has been a damaging force since. During the
'90s, men received an unbelievable amount of
criticism, the vast amount of it unwarranted."
Examples
include generalizations about men abandoning their
families, not paying child support and being abusive
parents. In commercials and across TV, he says that
men are often portrayed as cartoonish boobs.
"I'm not
trying to turn back the clock on women's progress,
but we need some sort of corrective action to bring
things back to the center," Sacks says.
"Laws are
so stacked against men; there are tremendous
civil-rights violations going on in the United
States against fathers," he says.
WIFE BY
HIS SIDE
Ironically, it was Sacks' wife who encouraged him to
take action: "She nagged me enough until I finally
decided to write about it." His first column on the
topic in 2001 was picked up by the Los Angeles
Times. The Chicago Tribune printed the third.
Suddenly, Sacks had a new calling card.
Dozens of
interview requests poured in (with Time magazine,
USA Today and The New Zealand Herald among them), as
well as TV appearances on NBC, CBS, ABC, CNBC, the
BBC and the Australian Broadcasting Corp.
And then
there was radio, including NPR, the syndicated "Tom
Leykis Show" and news/talk WOR New York.
"I was on
so many shows, and they would absolutely be flooded
with calls," Sacks says. "I let this permeate my
brain, and it dawned on me that I should be able to
do this myself."
He formed a
company, Sacks Media Group, bringing in investors,
as well as a part-time producer who books guests; a
part-time publicist to pitch articles and shows; and
a full-time business partner. He also launched his
meaty Web site, hisside.com, which he says has
garnered 1.25 million hits in the past four years.
In March
2003, Sacks launched the weekly radio show "His Side
With Glenn Sacks." Two years later, his ventures in
media are now a full-time profession.
"The thing
I liked about radio is that it felt like a good way
to get this content to men in an entertaining way
that's digestible," he says.
Not
surprisingly, much of his audience is male, in their
30s-50s. "Divorced dads are my base of support," he
says.
But Sacks
also has a lot of women who listen, call and write,
and most support his viewpoints.
"A lot of
them feel anguish for what their sons are going
through in school," he says, adding that he never
insults women on the show or attempts to offend
them.
He also
tows a neutral line when it comes to politics: He
has appeared on Dr. Laura Schlessinger's
conservative radio show as well as the liberal Air
America Radio network. "This kind of a view is often
stereotyped as conservative, but I don't tip my hand
on whether I'm a Democrat or a Republican," he
notes.
GETTING
HAMMERED
Still, of
course, there are detractors. "I get hammered from
two sides: Obviously the feminist side gives me a
lot of heat, though I've had a lot of feminists on
the show and I like them very much as people; and
then I get attacked pretty vehemently by chivalrous
males who say I'm a wuss teaching my son to be a
wuss." (Sacks and his wife have a son, 12, and a
daughter, 7.)
Actually,
he adds, "I wish we got more opposition from people.
It's a source of frustration sometimes, because I
really do like to defend my opinions."
Sacks is
amused to admit that he has been called everything
from whiney to a bitter deadbeat dad getting back at
an ex-wife. In truth, Sacks has never been divorced,
paid child support, had a child out of wedlock or
been arrested, he says.
"I don't
have a problem with men being the butt of jokes,"
Sacks says. "But when men are always the jerk or
lazy or they can't figure out how to load the
dishwasher, we need to bring back some balance. I'm
campaigning for every decent guy who works hard for
his family, comes home and turns on the TV and sees
nothing but fathers who are idiots."
Sacks'
voice has come across loud and clear. In addition to
the "Boys are stupid" cease-fire, he raised a ruckus
about a Verizon TV ad that ran last November.
In the
commercial, "there's a father who's trying to help
his 8-year-old daughter with her homework and of
course, he doesn't know a damn thing. The daughter
looks up at the mom, who's obviously a lot smarter
than the dad, and the mom tells the guy to get out
and go wash the dog," he says.
A
grandmother called Verizon to complain about the
cliched portrayal of pop and the company blew her
off, according to Sacks. So she took the complaint
to "His Side," which soon fostered media coverage in
some 300 newspapers across the country, including
The Washington Post and USA Today. The ad
disappeared from the airwaves in three weeks.
"I had
people telling me to 'stop whining, it's just a
commercial' and saying, 'Ah, did it hurt your
feelings?' But it's satisfying to know that we are
accomplishing things," he says.
Sacks believes that the market for his man mandate
has years of relevance. |